Wednesday, February 1, 2012

People Still find this thing...

I really should write more in here. I found when I made my last post that people still find and read this thing. And part of me does get a little disappointed when all they find is my emo nonsense. That being said, for all the readers who find this thing and enjoy its work....

Thank you.

I'm still around SL and if you read this blog, I'm not difficult to find. I may be a bit of bitch but it never hurts to say hello. :)

Mistress Graves.

Monday, January 30, 2012

I can't believe this needs to be said.

Ok boys. Let me give you a tip. If you come wandering into a free sex sim, or a some femdom location, or a feminization area looking like this?????

Or like this?
  Or like this?

Then chances are you aren't going to get the time of day from the 10 in the room, or even the 8's. or even the 4's if they had any self respect. The look may work if you are looking to get into a free sex place and looking to hop on a poseball and get your spunk out, and if thats all you are trying to do then fine. But what bothers me about this is there are people who are in Second Life who still look like this after their profile exceeds 1000 days. You shouldn't look like this after 30 days. There are about 18 billion male avatars in SL and all of them use the same skin and hair. Its totally unacceptable.

I understand some people don't want to put in money into SL. I'm not unsympathetic, I'm the same way. Most of my looks are completely free as well, but if I can toot my horn I think I look damn good.  Here's the deal, If you are looking to land that hot mistress, or girl, or whatever. You have to present yourself. Especially with the feminization racket. If you don't look like you are going to put any effort into your male look, why would anyone assume that you are going to try when you are made into a girl?

So let me give you guys the two basics I give to everyone who comes to SL.

For the guys:

For Everyone ( but mainly Girls):

If you check these two pages everytime you log into SL, within no time for no money you will establish yourself a nice little inventory of stuff to go through, you really only need like 7 good outfits to impress anyone to show that you mix things up but never stop collecting. It will go a long way. Getting a AO helps as well.

And now a quick me update. I haven't been able to get onto SL as much as I would like lately, I've been going back to school for my masters degree and its really kicking my ass and showing how much of a dimwit I really am. I'm struggling to keep up but another B- and my ass could be kicked from campus. Ugh.

My loyal pet Reanne, as most of you know from this blog, finally got fed up with my shit and kicked me to the curb. I'm still pretty broken up about it but what can you do. She loved her mistress. I just became who I've always been and she finally got tired of waiting and told me to hit the bricks. It sucks but there's really nothing I can do about it.

Maxie and her RL wife had a kid! So She hasn't been on all that much because her kid from what I hear is ever bit of a spitfire that Maxie is, so she's keeping daddy on her toes. :)

Nina had dumped me too at one point but she came back after hammering out what it is that needs to change in our relationship. I really have been making an effort here because I know what a lazy fuck up I've been but with the school thing its been really hard to make time to do anything. He's been really patient and I'm glad he's stuck around. If he didn't there really would be no reason for me to come back to SL with Maxie gone all the time. Although he's been flexing some domme roots and trying to get me to sub a bit more. I'm not wholly against the idea but I've been Mistress Graves for so long and built this image of myself its hard to be seen that way.

I have missed training maids and new sissies, but the FFU is all but dead these days with Jori's new horror rape place. Because of this you rarely find that choice sub that would make for a great trainee. I keep my eyes peeled but I don't think I'll see anyone soon.

Keep it Frilly bitches.
Mistress Graves.

Friday, May 27, 2011

People actually still read this thing?

So I was sitting up at the FFU just wasting time as I normally do when I got an IM from a sub called Damien, thanking for the wonderful stories on my blog. I have got to be honest I am floored people still read this thing, but since it appears that some people do, I might as well give you somewhat of an update on the past year i haven't been posting.

God that kills me to say. Past year... have I really been in SL that long?

Yes. Yes I have. 1417 days to be precise.

So here's the deal, when you first come to SL, its this brand new oyster full of all these wonderful possibilities, new places to play and to people to meet. And just like in your real life, you meet some people you like to be around, things you like to do, and you kinda keep going with that. But eventually, things can sometimes get a little stale. Thats not to say I am not enjoying my second life and the pets I Keep, far from it. As long as Maxie, Reanne, Nina (nolan for the "regular" readers) and my other friends keep popping on second life, I still have a reason to do the same. They really have become an extension of my family, and I am always genuinely glad to see them. But I have run alot of my kinks with them and I some of it does start to feel a little bit like old hat. So the fear is that they either A.) get bored cuz were doing the same crap. or B.) get bored cuz were not doing anything at all.

I could always take a new pet, but finding that choice sub, that person with a good amount of RP and the right level of commitment is impossible. For subs reading this? Repeat that word to yourself. Commitment. If someone is going to take the time to train you or spend time with you, Show some FUCKING commitment. Nothing is more infuriating than having someone I've worked hard on to mold properly fucking flat leave me without a word. A few have done it, and its pretty much my one unforgivable offense. You burn my trust Once? its fucking gone for good.

"Count on Nobody, and nobody will let you down." - Agent M

So that's why the updates have for the most part stopped, I'm not the shutterbug in SL i used to be either as well. which also plays a part in things. Now most of you will notice above that I didn't mention Ashe in the prior mentioned names. Ashe had become quite the flake over time. Disappearing for months on end without a word. One day he came back and we had a long sit down. We dissolved our partnership and went our separate ways. He was some things in his RL he wanted to pursue and i was supportive of that. I was ok with it. He sometimes pops back on and plays with others for reasons sited why we should split, and while i still sing his praise in my profile, he pretty much seems to be doing everything to forget about me. I try not to think about it but we were joined at the hip for pretty much 2 years... So it hurts a bit when i reflect on it. He doesn't think its awkward at all. I guess I'm easily forgotten.... Well, what can you do? Wish him the best...

Which kinda brings us to now, Things are a bit tumultuous at home. I have three pets that i love but they are getting on edge cuz I'm not as active as i used to be. They want to seem me happy, but its making me unhappy to know they are bored and probably unhappy. There have been a number of fights, some resolutions, attempts made and tears flowed.

Its made me realize how little difference there is in SL when it comes to emotions. Things that have happened here that have made me cry more times than in my RL, and really? i wouldn't change it for anything. I'd be lying if i said i ha vent thought about dissolving my group and letting them all run free. They'd never tell me to my face thats what they want, and maybe its not.

But if there is one thing out of my whole time here that i have learned is this: I'm not special. Im not a mistress. Im not a goddess, Humilatrix, Dominant, whatever. I'm just a person. Person with simple interests and things that make me happy, sad, and angry. Nothing more than that.

We come to Second life to become something different. To become what we want to be. But no matter how much time you spend, skins you buy, clothes you wear, people you meet, the only thing you end up becoming is yourself.

And that's totally ok.

Cohen Graves

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

just a night at home.

I know I haven't posted much. Bit of a dry spell.

I have this Friend, I won't user his full name, but he tended to be a bit cockshy. So to make him a bit more lax in it, I dared him to spend 2 weeks as a femboy. As it turned out he loved the new him and he has remained as such.

I have been training him as a maid at the FFU and I had Daisy, as he is now known, come over to my home with Maxie to work on my windows and floors. They started off all right but I heard a bit of commotion in the kitchen as they were working on the floors and I walked in to them flinging their brushes at each other, I removed their skirts and panties and and gave them a few swift swats and made them complete their work without them. I had them draw me a bath and called it a night. Sometimes its nice to just have your maids work for you.

Mistress Graves.

Saturday, April 10, 2010

My First Lecture

All right all you fairys that want to becomed maids, I will be holding my introductory lecture for Sissy Maid Mondays at the FFU. Everyone male, female or sissy is welcome to attend the class. Spectators are welcome to attend as well. The introduction will be a base overview of some terminology and ethics, and dress code.

Class starts on Monday Night at 7pm Slt (10pm est). Hope to see you new sissies there. Now's yer chance to meet my dumb ass. SLurl link in the prior post.

Mistress Graves.

Monday, April 5, 2010

For all you aspiring maids and sissies...

Hello there kiddies. For those of you who don't know, My pet Maxie has done something I have struggled with in my two years of mistressing at the FFU. She's finally gotten some focuse RP going along at the FFU, in the form of the FFU classes. There seems to be a slowly building a small following and it looks like the students are enjoying them. We are trying to get more professors as well.

Which brings me to this post. As you all know, i specialize in the training of Sissy maids. I have been on the fence if I wanted to produce a lesson plan for the subject because i dont know if there is interest. So for all you readers in SL that would like to sharpen your Maid training or looking to start your sissy maid training. Or your non SL users who are looking for a Sissymaid RP experience. Feel free to come down to the FFU and give some input if you would like to enroll in such a class. if there is enough interest I will start constructing my lesson plan to make it more interactive.

So come on down to the FFU and pick yourself up a school uniform! Then head to the FFU lounge and put a note in the suggestion box. Or if i happen to be there, feel free to talk to me. Come on boys, you know you want this.

Mistress Graves.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

a fun little story to read.

I found this sissy on Flickr and she has finally moved it over the Blogspot. Quite the entertaining feminization tale. Enjoy..